Signs of a Cheating Spouse

Lack of intimacy

Sex and intimacy is an important part of a relationship. A noticeable change or loss of interest in this area definitely points to a problem in your partnership.
Not allowed to contact them at work

If your partner has requested that you no longer visit them or call them at work, there may be a reason other than the boss is strict. Many relationships start in a workplace or perhaps your partner isn’t really spending those late hours and long lunch breaks doing innocent things.

Private Cellphone/Technology Use

Just like the computer, a cellphone can be one of the tools your spouse uses to engage in undisclosed activities. Watch out for secret phone calls and excessive texting. In addition, are they erasing their sent and received call list, or if you pick up the phone does the caller hang up? If you notice this, look for a phone bill to clarify your suspicions. Your spouse doesn’t allow access to their computer or suddenly shut down the computer when you walk in.

Password protect their laptop/computer/cellphone

Or they stay up to “work” or “play a game” after you go to bed. Excessive internet usage, especially at night is a red flag.

Negative attitude

Typically a cheater will be overly loving and sweet to you in the beginning, but that quickly turns to finding fault with you as your spouse tries to mentally justify his/her immoral actions. Internally they will try to find a way to blame you, when in actuality it was them who made the mistake.

Changes in grooming and appearance

While there are many reasons to want to look and feel better, often times a new lover can be the impetus behind a new hairstyle or shaper attire. A sudden interest in going to the gym or exercising

Unaccountable Hours/Schedule

Your partner is not able to explain the reason why they have not been where they say they have been. This is the time to frame to schedule surveillance. Suddenly working overtime Sudden out-of-town business trips

Saying “It’s your Imagination”

Your partner might fight back with you and say “It’s your imagination” when actually it’s an indication that you are getting too close to finding out the TRUTH.

Not wearing a wedding ring

If your spouse no longer wears their wedding ring that is an indication that they want everyone to know that they are single.

New Sexual Techniques

Over the years you and your partner always had sex a particular way and now your partner comes home with new sexual moves that they learned from being with someone else.

Saying “I need my space”

Perhaps your marriage is on the rocks and your partner tells you that he/she needs their space.

Other Signs

When they arrive home and head straight to the shower/bath When they become suddenly “forgetful” and you have to tell him/her everything several times; their thoughts are obviously elsewhere. Increasing arguments, usually over minor issues. “We are Just Friends”, if your spouse is spending more time with this “friend”, it is a big warning sign.


That disturbing feeling that something is “wrong” A person’s gut instincts are usually correct. By the time that someone begins to question the fidelity of a partner, it is usually already too late.

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